One of the most frightening sights
which I have ever seen
keeps managing to stick it's very ugly face
right in my path
directly in front of me
over and over again.

It is the daughter
who has completely and fully
FAILED TO INDIVIDUATE.

Now, here is the sad part.

I am supposed to be the criminal
for pointing it out
and trying to stop the madness
before it becomes TOO destructive
= much sooner and faster than you think,
expect, 
or even begin to realize.

But, that is clearly not where any crime lies.

Rather it lies with each individual
who has contributed
to the stifling of the psychical growth
of the child
who has been entrusted,
BY GOD,
to their care.

What a shame and disgrace
as they prance oh so proudly around
as if they are doing ANYTHING useful for anyone.

There is only one way that an otherwise healthy daughter
 is going to fail to individuate
and that is because

she has been tortured, 
repeatedly violated 
and finally crushed into submission
and psychical oblivion.

She is now ripe for abuse
by the losers which her "parents"
will almost surely have chosen for her
to "properly" be able to keep company with.

Oh, what a coincidence,
the very persons
they would have had for themselves
if they only could,
usually from the same clan
or geographical area.

What losers!

Oh, but it is done ever so insidiously.

I am sure it will be done
with many fine words
and gestures
and grand promises
and only the highest of moral persuasion,
I am oh so sure.

All of which,
in the final analysis
amount to nothing more than cruel subterfuge.

Just remember, Little Missy,
I am doing all of this for you ---

In fact they are creating the worst kind of
LEARNED HELPLESSNESS,
while the sad excuse of "parents"
live in perpetual dream fantasies
of finding some fool
with money
to take over the incredible pile of baggage
which they have so willfully and wantonly created.

Good luck!

Ain't even going to happen.

What a ridiculous nonsensical waste of a life.

They are living out some ridiculous movie
or television show
or novel
or self-constructed fantasy
which should, rather, 
leave the poor child
out of this sickness.

I really don't mean to go on a tirade,
but here there is destruction on a scale
otherwise unimaginable to me.

There never can be an integrated whole,
so long as these people are in charge
of what is to be or not to be.

And I see every form of narcissistic criminality
running rampant.

But oh,
how quick they are
to PLAY THE VICTIM.

Who can miss this daytime drama, anyway?

Everything is a soap opera
in one form or another.

This is a complete disconnect from reality.

Which could be fine, but here?

It simply IS NOT fine!
to take kids
who have actually been given no meaningful choice
in the matter,
whatsoever,

and to use your extremely disproportionate power
to their disadvantage,

while pretending through the entire time that all is well.

Everyone knows that ALL IS NOT WELL!

But, there you go,
on your merry way,
in "makebelieve land".

Another mist
to vapor
to poof?

Or am I quite mistaken?

PARENTS WHO PRETEND TO SPEAK
for these fully grown adult children
are speaking for no one at all,
no, not even for themselves.

It is all a facade.

How could there possibly be
willing,
meaningful,
voluntary,
and knowing consent?

This is an impossibility, pure and simple.

The POWER RELATIONSHIPS
are FAR TOO DISPROPORTIONATE.

To even suggest
that there is any kind of equality of bargaining power
can only make one suspect
just what motives
are actually going on behind the scenes here,
anyway?

The would-be parents are just plain wrong,
through and through.

And I know that they know.

But they are simply too sick to face it
and admit it
and do something constructive
in place of this oh-so-destructive behavior.

In the meantime ALL MUST SUFFER.

All to the child's detriment.

Permanently.

And possibly irrevocably.

Please don't do ME any favors ---

You have not just created
LEARNED HELPLESSNESS

(sure hope you have the $$$ to pay for all of this,
but I know very well that you do not,
which makes your behavior even more abhorrent).

but you have created
A PREDATOR'S DAYDREAM COME TRUE.

The child is now forever marked as a moron,
easy to manipulate,
and extraordinarily easy to take advantage of,
JUST LIKE AT HOME.    

For all of my past overly predatory criminal clients

(but MOST DEFINITELY
and certainly
NOT on my on behalf,
I can assure you)


thanks "mom"

thanks "dad"

Real good job you done there.


And then I will all too soon have to hear
one of the most heartrending stories
I have ever heard
as reality supplants these people's
utterly ridiculous fantasy constructs.


But, then, after all that
I thought about it awhile
and remembered that 

" --- a few eggs have got to be broken 
if you expect to make a momlette ---"


Too bad it is the child,
who is unable to protect herself
from the far more extensive experience
and grossly disproportionate asset base
and earning power
of her captors.

What a ripoff!

And what losers these utterly
NARCISSTIC "MOMS" are.

They definitely should not be prancing about proudly.

It looks ridiculous and in the poorest of taste.

Yet, they are so f****d up
that they couldn't stop if they wanted to.

Please shoot me and kill me immediately
if I ever become that way.

You have my permssion.

Yeah, encouragement.

But make sure I really am that way, first, please.



w/strong outrage and much "righteous" indignation

vw


p.s

you girls,
who really are the victims,
in spite of all of the protestations
of your "parents"
to the contrary

are all in my prayers constantly

I pray that you may be fully constituted
and that your mind may ultimately coalesce
and unite
into one integrated whole
and that you may unashamedly
develop into your own person,
as God most assuredly intended,
far different
and far more valuable
than the parentage from which you came

I know far more about these matters
than I could ever want to,
for numerous different reasons,
and so am able to attest
where others would not be able to.

The behavior is detestable.

And I am ashamed for all who take part
or who prolong the agony of
the young girls
who have effectively been raped
(emotionally speaking)
by their own parent/s.

Sense of betrayal, anyone?

Rocky relationships, anyone?

Inability to make healthy attachments?

Inability to deal with reality?

Inability to adapt?

Inability to cope?

And full acceptance
of the grossest violations
of every boundary
known to man
and to woman.

Sexual problems in abundance?

Relationship problems in abudnance?


Oh did I forget to mention

CONSTANT DEPRESSION

and

PANIC DISORDERS

and

SUICIDIAL IDEATION

and

SELF INJURIOUS BEHAVIOR.

I can only wonder who else I have forgotten.

I fail to see where there is a whole lot
to be proud
and prancing about.

But this is ALWAYS THE DIFFERENCE
between those making the messes
and those trying to clean them up
before more are inevitably made.


vw
w/love, mixed with intense anger and vitriol

   
11:54 p.m.

Monday

7-16-12

Ventura, California, USA